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Most of us are familiar with “fight or flight” mode—our body's emergency response to stress. But there's another side: the “rest or nest” mode, where healing and recovery happen. The problem is that many of us spend a lot of time in “fight or flight” mode, which can drain productivity and lead to chronic stress. A key to better stress management and enhanced work performance is to activate the parasympathetic nervous system – the #brain’s “rest or nest” mode.   The autonomic nervous system (ANS) controls bodily responses like heart rate, breathing, pupil dilation, digestion, perspiration, and even sexual arousal. It has two important branches. The sympathetic branch controls #FightOrFlight while the parasympathetic branch controls #RestOrNest. The two operate almost entirely unconsciously – except for breathing. When we consciously slow down our #breathing, we activate the parasympathetic nervous system. It slows down our heart rate and blood pressure, reduces energy consumption, increases digestion and healing processes, and lowers cortisol levels (e.g. the brain’s “stress hormone”). In other words, slowing our breathing can help to reduce stress. There are many ways to achieve this. 👉 Deep breathing exercises where you breathe deeply into the belly rather than shallowly into the chest, can activate the “rest or nest” system. 👉 Regular meditation has been shown to increase parasympathetic activity, reducing stress and anxiety. Focusing on the breathing can be particularly effective. 👉 Yoga combines physical postures, breathing exercises, and meditation, all of which help increase parasympathetic activity. 👉 Going for long walks, especially in nature, can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and enhance parasympathetic activity. These are just a few of the many available options, of course. Each has the added benefit of avoiding external stimulation that can trigger a “fight or flight” reaction such as smart phones and emails. You can even try this simple breathing exercise now: Inhale slowly for 5 seconds, hold for 2 seconds, and exhale slowly for 7 seconds. Repeat three times. Has your heart rate slowed? Do you feel a little calmer? Your peripheral nervous system is the brain’s built-in antidote to stress. What’s your favourite method to activate your 'rest and nest' mode?

Meditation made my stress worse. December. Deals closing. Team stretched. You downloaded Headspace like every other burned-out professional scrambling for relief. 10 minutes of “mindfulness.” Your heart rate jumped to 95 BPM. Your brain felt like static, not calm. You thought you were broken. Turned out you were using the wrong protocol. Most apps push Open Monitoring (OM) meditation as a universal fix. That style turns up your awareness system. You feel more alert, more wired. Focused Attention (FA) does the opposite. It slows your nervous system down. Wrong tool, wrong outcome. For executives already running at 90%, this difference matters. This week’s newsletter fixes that. The neuroscience behind when meditation backfires. A decision tree for picking the right method. Breathing drills vs walking meditation vs NSDR. Match the method to your current state. Replace guessing with a simple plan: notice your state, pick a protocol, and stick with it for a week. This is the “Recover” pillar of Upward ARC. Stress management built on evidence that actually moves the needle. Read the full breakdown: https://lnkd.in/gYTriPmk

Before you send your team to another stress management workshop, read this. Over the years of helping people improve & transform their wellness, I’ve worked with professionals across different industries, banking, tech, education, even healthcare. And here’s one pattern I keep seeing: The workshop is good. People feel inspired. They WANT to change. But 2–3 weeks later… They’re back to the same stress patterns aka old habits. Not because they don’t care. But because execution was never designed properly. And here’s the truth most people don’t say out loud: Losing momentum doesn’t just happen in stress management workshops. It happens in all workshops, trainings, and bootcamps. You name it. They inspire. They empower. They even give templates and tracking metrics. And yet… people still slip back into old habits. It’s understandable. Because their brains have been wired that way for years...sometimes even decades. From what I’ve observed, real change doesn’t happen in one session. It happens in 2 phases: Phase 1️⃣ : Kick-starting Action (from Inertia to Action) This is where most workshops stop, but it’s actually where things should begin. People don’t need more information. They need momentum. Some ways to activate this phase: • Short, structured challenges (e.g. 5–7 day reset routines) • Simple, repeatable tools they can apply immediately • Clear “what to do tomorrow” steps • Light accountability loops Because insight without action… fades fast. Phase 2️⃣ : Long-term Habit Formation This is the part most organisations overlook. Stress isn’t a one-time problem. It’s a pattern. And patterns need systems, not just motivation. Some ways to sustain this phase: • Ongoing community or peer support • Monthly reinforcement sessions or check-ins • Leadership alignment (culture matters more than content) • Environmental cues that support new behaviours Because behaviour change doesn’t stick in isolation. It sticks in environments that support it. If we really want our teams to perform at a high level without burning out, we need to move from one-off events → to behaviour design → to culture change. Not just “teach and inspire.” But activate and sustain. If you’re looking to design a stress management program that actually translates into daily behaviour, I’m happy to have a conversation. Let’s build something that lasts. Hi, I’m Shirlyn Lim, a Brain Coach & Mental Health Speaker. I share science-backed insights to help you stay calm under pressure, think clearly, and lead with confidence. Follow me if you’re ready to build a sharper mind, a stronger team, and a version of success that doesn’t burn you out. 🏆🏆 #stressmanagement #braincoach #mentalhealthspeaker #corporatetraining #behavioralchange

Last night, I spent a couple of hours reviewing aggregate data from the numerous workplace dynamics assessments we’ve conducted over the past 12 months. Don’t get me wrong, I do other things in my spare time... But last night, I felt compelled to look for patterns in the psychosocial risks that are undermining retention, engagement, and performance. And guess what? A clear pattern emerged. Our data shows that job demands, excessive workload, and emotional exhaustion are among the most consistent psychosocial risks impacting performance. This isn’t just anecdotal; it’s systemic. Here’s the thing: emotional exhaustion isn’t a character flaw or a sign of weakness. It’s a warning light that tells us something isn’t working. When these psychosocial risks go unmanaged, the cost isn’t just absenteeism or turnover. It’s disengagement, silos, poor decision-making, and missed potential. As part of the control measures we recommend after identifying these risks, we stress that if we want to lead businesses where people thrive, we must design conversations that reach the heart of wellbeing; early, openly, and often. One practical tool we encourage is the Wellbeing Conversation Guide. How does it work? Use it in your 1:1s, team reflections, or even performance reviews. Start with: Ask: – What makes you feel stressed or drained? – What’s important to you outside of work? – Are there any areas of your life I can support you in protecting? These aren’t fluffy questions; they’re strategic. They help surface risks before they escalate into problems, and build trust before it’s too late. Try this out, and you’ll see the impact for yourself.

Your Weekly Burnout Briefing Real talk. Smart tools. Your top burnout questions, answered. What if we treated stress like any other business risk — like budget overruns or system outages — and kept an eye on it before it got out of hand?" Everyone's talking about burnout, but you can't outrun burnout with another resilience webinar, newsletter or even book (although they help!). A recent Harvard Business Review piece offers a practical tool. It’s called the “Stress Risk Thermometer” and it helps leaders spot and cool rising stress before it spirals. It’s a tiered system that: 1. Assesses workforce stress levels. Asking a simple question: “How often do you feel stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed at work?” 2. Maps results into low, medium, and high-stress risk zones. 3. Integrates findings into your enterprise risk management processes. 4. Pinpoints employee segments most affected and identify underlying causes. 5. Links stress trends to business metrics and track early warning signals. To dig deeper, ask: "To what extent do your workload and deadlines feel manageable?” or How confident are you in your ability to manage stress effectively?” 6. Designs targeted, structural interventions (aka real strategies) when big portions of your team hit high-stress zones addressing root causes If your organization isn't measuring stress like any other business risk, it's simply hoping people tough it out, which puts people and performance at risk. Worth a try? Check out the HBR piece here - https://lnkd.in/e65NkFHq New practical tips (or musings) drop next week. For more, grab your copy of Burnt Out to Lit Up here - https://lnkd.in/emDV3ZtW #burntouttolitupbook #burnout #leadership #work #wellbeing #futureofwork #stress

Leadership part 18 Managing Stress as a Leader Leadership is not the absence of pressure; it is the ability to remain balanced during pressure. A leader carries responsibility, deadlines, expectations, uncertainty, and sometimes criticism. Stress becomes dangerous when it controls decision-making instead of strengthening discipline. Key Principles of Managing Stress 1. Prioritise, Don’t Panic Not every problem deserves equal energy. Strong leaders separate: • urgent issues • important long-term goals • unnecessary distractions Calm prioritisation reduces mental overload. 2. Build Inner Stability A leader with emotional balance creates confidence in others. Daily habits help: • proper sleep • exercise • prayer or meditation • reading • quiet reflection Inner stability creates outer clarity. 3. Do Not Carry Everything Alone Delegation is leadership, not weakness. Trust capable people with responsibility. Teams grow when leaders allow others to contribute. 4. Avoid Emotional Decisions Stress can create anger, fear, and impatience. Great leaders pause before reacting. A calm response often solves more than emotional confrontation. 5. Focus on Consistent Action Overthinking increases stress. Small disciplined action reduces uncertainty. Progress creates confidence. Case Study During wartime in the , Arjuna faced confusion, fear, and emotional pressure before battle. Krishna guided him toward clarity, duty, balance, and disciplined action instead of panic. The lesson remains relevant for modern leadership: emotional control improves decision-making. Daily Life Application • Business owners manage uncertainty calmly. • Teachers lead classrooms patiently. • Parents handle family pressure with balance. • Managers support teams during difficult periods. Simple Leadership Reminder “Pressure is temporary, but character shown under pressure is remembered for years.” by Acharya Viren Shah

The Job Demands-Resources Model (Demerouti et al, 2001) is one of the most trusted frameworks when it comes to helping managers and organisations make better choices when it comes to work and job design. DEMANDS include: *Physical - e.g. lifting, carrying, shiftwork that can interrupt sleep patterns *Mental - e.g. needing to know lots of different processes and systems. *Complexity - e.g. needing to know and understand how to navigate different laws and policies. *Relationships - e.g. patients, service users, customers, colleagues. *Risk/hazards - e.g. social worker going to a visit on their own. RESOURCES include: *Support - e.g. supportive line manager, helpful colleagues. *Autonomy - e.g. having control over certain decisions that affect your work. *Feedback - e.g. getting timely and helpful feedback so you are clear on what you are doing well (keep doing) and what you need to work on. *Systems/processes - e.g. having knowledge of technical systems essential for your job. *Personal resources - e.g. e.g. having the knowledge and experience of handling certain complex cases. It's important to regularly review that individuals and teams have sufficient resources they need to offset or balance out the demands. Here is a simple activity I use when working with teams experiencing high levels of stress: 1. Discuss and list the current demands individuals are facing in their roles. Score each of these on a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is not stressful and 10 is extremely stressful. 2. Discuss and list the current support that already exists across the team and beyond that, which help offset the negative effects of demands. 3. Discuss and identify support that is missing that could help offset, reduce or eradicate the higher scoring demands (anything rated above a 5). 4. Develop an action plan with next steps. #stress #stressmanagement #culture #leadership #management #sketchnote #infographic

𝗖𝗘𝗢𝘀 & 𝗖𝗫𝗢𝘀, 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗪𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝗕𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽. High-performing executives don't become extraordinary by avoiding stress—they become exceptional by mastering it. Here's the unspoken truth from executive boardrooms: Too little stress: Your performance stagnates. Too much stress: You spiral into burnout, fatigue, and decision paralysis. According to the scientifically validated Yerkes-Dodson Law, peak performance requires optimal stress levels—not too high, not too low. It’s the delicate balance between pressure and presence. Here’s how world-class leaders proactively manage stress and sustain top-tier performance: 𝗜𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘆 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗧𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿𝘀: High workload, unclear expectations, lack of autonomy, workplace conflicts, and life imbalance are stress accelerators. Awareness allows leaders to preemptively manage triggers rather than merely react to them. 𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 "𝟰 𝗔’𝘀" 𝗠𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗠𝗮𝗻𝗮𝗴𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁: Avoid: Cut out non-essential stressors (unnecessary meetings, distractions). Alter: Proactively change the situation (set clear boundaries, delegate tasks). Accept: Practice radical acceptance of realities you can’t change, to preserve emotional energy. Adapt: Reframe your perspective to regain control and clarity. 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗼𝗼𝗹𝘀: Deep Breathing resets your nervous system in high-stakes meetings. Mindfulness Practices sharpen decision-making by reducing emotional reactivity. Regular Exercise & Sleep drastically improve cognitive function and emotional resilience (leaders sleeping 7-8 hours nightly make sharper decisions by 40%, according to Stanford research). 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗔𝗻 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝘁 𝗣𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴: Elite CEOs utilize frameworks like the Eisenhower Matrix or the Ivy Lee Method to ruthlessly focus on the most impactful tasks, eliminating decision fatigue and boosting productivity by 60%+. Remember: Great leaders don't run from stress—they consciously harness it. Mastering stress isn't just self-care; it's essential to high-level decision-making, sustained performance, and your organization's long-term success. Stress management is not a soft skill—it’s a competitive advantage. How do you currently manage your stress under pressure? Share your top strategy below. Infographic inspired by Justin Wright #ExecutiveLeadership #StressManagement #CEOInsights #PeakPerformance #LeadershipDevelopment #MentalHealthMatters #CXO #BurnoutPrevention #ProductivityHacks

The 4 A’s of stress management offer a simple framework: Avoid – When possible, reduce unnecessary stressors. Not every invitation, debate, or responsibility needs your energy. Boundaries are preventive care. Alter – If the situation is within your influence, communicate clearly, adjust expectations, or problem-solve. Small shifts can reduce major tension. Accept – Some things are outside your control. Acceptance isn’t giving up — it’s choosing to stop fighting what you cannot change and redirecting your energy inward. Adapt – When you can’t change the situation, you can shift your mindset or coping strategy. This might look like reframing thoughts, regulating emotions, or leaning into support. For many in BIPOC communities, stress isn’t just personal — it’s systemic. That’s why discernment matters. You don’t have to internalize what was never yours to carry. Stress management isn’t about doing more. It’s about responding wisely. #stressmanagement #mentalhealthtools #bipocmentalhealth #emotionalregulation #healthyboundaries #copingskills #therapyfortheculture

She came to me six months into one of the worst staffing crises her hospital system had ever seen. Twelve-hour days. Constant escalations. A team that was burning out and looking to her to hold it together. She was doing exactly what strong leaders do under that kind of pressure, absorbing everything, staying steady for everyone, and running herself into the ground to keep the wheels turning. She told me the problem was time management. If she could just get more efficient, she could stay on top of it. That wasn't the problem. The problem was that her nervous system had been in a state of chronic activation for so long, she stopped being ablke to distinguish between a genuine crisis and a difficult Tuesday. Everything felt urgent. Everything felt like her responsibility to solve. Every escalation landed with the same physiological weight as a genuine emergency, because her system was no longer able to triage. It had been running at red alert for so long that red alert had become the baseline. And here's the thing nobody talks about when we praise leaders for their resilience: Absorbing everyone else's crisis is definitely not a leadership strength. It's a pattern. And it's contagious. Her team was mirroring her. Not her words, not her instructions, her nervous system. The chronic activation, the urgency, the inability to distinguish signal from noise. She was broadcasting it, and they were running on it. Here's what we worked on, and it wasn't time management: • Somatic release work to discharge what her body had been storing for months • Neuro Agility diagnostics to identify where her brain was bottlenecking under load • Identity-level work around who she needed to be in crisis, versus who she had defaulted to becoming • Specific nervous system protocols for re-entering high-pressure situations from a regulated state Six weeks in, something shifted. Not in her calendar. In her. She started showing up to escalations as the steadiest person in the room, not because she was suppressing her stress response, but because she had actually recalibrated it. Her team felt it immediately. The quality of decisions improved. The emotional temperature of the unit dropped. She told me: 'I thought I needed to get better at managing crisis. I actually needed to stop living in it between crises.' The most expensive thing a senior leader can do is absorb what they should be regulating. If you're a leader in healthcare, financial services, or any high-pressure environment, and you recognize this pattern, I'd like to talk. Not about time management. About the thing underneath it. DM me or drop a comment.